Coming to Terms with the Baby You Got, with Victoria Wilson

After giving birth twice before, Victoria thought she had life with a newborn pretty much figured out. But when her third daughter was born fussy crying and frustrated, the thought running through Victoria’s mind was that something was off with this baby. What followed were weeks searching for that elusive one thing that would make everything good for her child, and not necessarily wanting to hear that maybe this is just who she was… Check it out.


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What we talked about:

  • Replenishing herself before going through another birth
  • How pregnancy pushed her to get better
  • This crazy fast birth!
  • Being a doula vs. the person giving birth
  • Knowing that vaginal checks mean nothing… and still being disappointed
  • Catching her own baby!
  • Meeting this unsettled and upset baby
  • “Something is off with you…”
  • “Will someone take my baby for a bit? Please!”
  • Musings on what may have been “off” about her baby
  • Trying to figure out that one thing…
  • Maybe this is just who she is
  • Improving what they could: addressing the lip and tongue ties with supportive therapies
  • Adapting to her “dysregulated” baby
  • How did they get through this?
  • That moment when she realized they were over the hump
  • The power of self-regulation and shifting expectations
  • The power of independent baby movement


In bed with the girls


Resources and links to info mentioned on the show:

Her adorable third baby


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Much needed walk in nature


Soaking up the sun


Gently held for a craniosacral therapy treatment


Loving the perineal spray!


Victoria and her husband, with baby #3

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About Victoria Wilson

Victoria Wilson CD(DONA) is grateful to be a doula and childbirth educator; she is passionate about birth work and improving maternity care in the United States. She is married to an incredibly supportive husband, mom to three spunky daughters, and deeply enjoys working in her doula practice. In 2018 she gratefully accepted a position with Evidence Based Birth® as Operations Director and has been loving making contributions to the maternity care field there. She probably drinks too much coffee and enjoys attempting DIY projects in her Kentucky home.

Learn more at or join the conversation on Instagram (@motherwelldoula) or Facebook (Mother Well Doula Service)




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