An Empowered Cesarean after a Traumatic One, with Melissa Divaris Thompson

We’re jump starting our Birthful Stories by talking with Melissa Divaris Thompson about her two very different Cesarean birth experiences. Melissa describes her first experience as traumatic. By contrast, she felt really empowered during her second birth. So what makes them so very different? Check it out!

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What we talked about:

  • Doing everything to prepare for an unmedicated vaginal birth
  • Induction and a cascade of interventions
  • Pain vs. misery
  • Pitocin to “blast baby out”
  • Feeling shut out of the process
  • Breastfeeding difficulties and separation
  • Postpartum anxiety
  • “Doing only the things that make me feel good”
  • Actively processing the previous experience
  • When bloody show is not so good
  • Using your BRAIN for informed decisions
  • Treated with compassion even in the face of an emergency
  • The importance of building trust with your provider


Melissa and baby, after a Cesarean Birth


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Melissa and baby, after a Cesarean Birth, tired and happy


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About Melissa Divaris Thompson

Melissa Divaris Thompson is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in New York City helping adults and couples in their 20’s and 30’s find their authentic voices and create more joy in their lives. Melissa has a deep respect and trust for the unfolding that occurs for each client during the process of psychotherapy. She co-founded Honest Mamas which is a podcast and an online resource supporting mothers emotionally and spiritually on the motherhood journey.

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